November 18, 2016

If you’re reading this, it’s safe to assume that you are an adult. You took time to read words that weren’t in a social media caption or music lyric, so YES…you have to be over 25.

Many of you are finding your way in this great big world. 

You are exploring:
1.    Industry – work, school, trade, hobby or skill
2.    Relationship – friendships, romantic partnerships, colleagues, children and/or relatives

Once upon a time, there was a third, equally significant, category:
3.    Dreams and Desires

As you navigate this whole ‘adulting’ thing, meeting your basic needs, supporting others and mixing in some recreation, that 3rd category appears to disappear.

Where did those dreams go? They seem to have been swallowed up by responsibilities.
Let me be your voice of reason. Don’t let those dreams die! They must remain active, so you can not only exist, but truly live.  

Do you want to:
-Start a school or mentor others?
-Travel the world?
-Play an instrument?

July 26, 2016

Usually, when we face difficulties in life, it's because of uncertainty.

For instance, when relationship issues arise, we may wonder:

  • Will we break up?

  • Will I find someone else to love me?

During challenging times, it feels like the future is bleak and unclear... Almost like entering a dark tunnel.

In a tunnel, there is darkness all around. You eventually reach the light by taking one step at a time in the right direction. The light may appear far away, yet moving forward gets you closer to your goal. 

The fear of the unknown can feel paralyzing.

Recently, my brother faced one of those situations. His job that he lovingly committed to for the past 12 years, unexpectedly suspended him. 

He panicked, thinking:

-Will I be fired?
-Would I be able to find another job? 

-What happens if I run out of money?

Unfortunately, his fears came true and he was let go. He had won employee awards and developed lifelong relationships at this job, but it had come to an abrupt end...

June 23, 2016

I know the season is summer and water fun is upon us. If you live in California, you are praying for an opportunity to be near any body of water. However, my posed question has nothing to do with splashing. 

I ask:

Are you Swimming, Floating or Sinking?

I am questioning how you are currently coping with your life. 

How are you feeling about yourself, your career and your relationships?

There are many titles you may hold:
o    Woman/Man
o    Husband/Wife
o    Sister/Brother
o    Employee/Student
o    Friend/Mentor
o    Daughter/Son

Of course, there are other specialized titles, like Dance Mom, Baseball Coach or Choir Director, to name a few. 

In addition to my plethora of titles, one of the roles that I have had the pleasure of fulfilling has been that of leader. I now operate as more of a freelancer, but once upon a time I was a Program Coordinator over a social service program. I supervised 65+ staff of varying academic and career l...

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